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I am now 32 weeks and the end is drawing closer. I am excited and nervous all at the same time to meet my new lil person ! And with this I am now really needing to focus on how to set up/initiate a...
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Good idea Jeanie - the new family relationship centres were created just for this very reasons. here is a linkFamily Relationship CentreThey can also assist in developing parenting plans and getting...
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Quote:But if he can be a good parent then it's a bonus for you and the bub if he can be around and be there for him/her. I do agree with this. I understand you are apprehensive because his behaviour...
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Just to add, a girlfriend of mine had this same situation - short relationship that didn't work and she found out she was pregnant.There were rocky bits of the road, and there are still moments when...
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Thanks everyone ! All your thoughts are much appreciated.I needed to vent a little I think, and really see what others thought, as sometimes I feel this situation is so out of my league.I had a quick...
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Hey Tam - that is okay - we all know it will not magically transform into a magical fairytale and some have weathered worse, some better on the parenting boatride.Feel free to bring up all your...
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Quote:I guess its a protective thing Im not sure ho to control as there are times when I worry about how little I actually know about him ! As mentioned, it definitely is a complication and can be...
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Looking at the positive, he may shape up as a great father & respectful to you as "mum" in which case you may find that you get along well & even consider a future together??At the negative,...
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Soph (aka Jeanie) and Lin are right, don't ever feel worried about expressing yourself here. We all have our own experiences and our own worries and we often use this forum as a bit of a sounding...
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I wouldn't worry about expressing yourself either. It's probably that this issue (access) is something we have all had to deal with in some way or another.I would be thinking about the birth...
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Quote:and if he is on the birth certificate he does in theory have equal rights Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that the birth certificate does not affect father's...
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Hi Lin - I was told by my solicitor that if he took dd he had equal rights (until I got sole custody) although I have interim order now. Ie I had not legal right to get her back. I must add though...
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I think he has the legal right to do that when there's no orders in place regardless of whether or not he is on the BC? Of course if you deny that he is the father, he'd have to get a DNA test done, I...
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After speaking to legal aid recently:The only way you can be granted sole responsibilty for your child (don't need signatures for any documentation, all decisions regarding the child are yours and...
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With the birth certificate issue, the father can apply through the courts to be added to it anyway. So if it comes down to it they can be on there if they want to be, even if you don't want them on...
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And if you dispute paternity then you're likely to have to pay for costs.Unless you've got a good reason not to I'd suggest placing him on the certificate. It makes it easier if/when you apply for...
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Quote:It makes it easier if/when you apply for child support. And/or more than the minimum of FTB A. Can't remember if it affects Child Care Benefit.Lin
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Quote:you would not have any legal rights for retrieval. While he would have equal right to take the child in the absence of any legal orders, you could still apply for an urgent recovery order if he...
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Quote:Schools and daycare would have to hand the child over to him if he's on the birth certificate and has ID to show it's him. No doubt they'd call you though, as they wouldn't know him - but I set...
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BOth day care and school have told me that even though they don't know the father, if he has ID that shows he's the one on the BC, they'd have to hand him over but would call me immediately.That's...
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